Dear Everyone Who Doesn’t Like Me

Dear Everyone Who Doesn’t Like Me

Just a heads up…this isn’t some cliché letter about how I love you anyway despite the fact that you don’t like me (although I do). Instead, I want to tell you … I get it. Yes, that’s right – I said I understand. Just hear me out.

A few months ago, I was driving home. As I approached a street close to my house, I saw a former classmate from high school. They were sitting on the ground at an intersection. I continued driving. Don’t judge me, I was so close to home and it was a long day, okay? Immediately God spoke to my heart… turn around. I turned the car around and began clearing things off the passenger seat when He spoke again, yes… move that stuff because they WILL be getting in this car.  Although God’s voice wasn’t audible, there was still a certain tone to it that really caught me off guard. I smiled. Okay, Lord.

I pulled over, got out and walked toward them. As they caught my eye and stood, their face lit up with delight and they hugged me with the tightest hug and warmest embrace I have ever felt in my life. It took everything within me not to cry. I was just so overwhelmed by how much joy my simple and unexpected presence brought them. In that moment, I surprisingly felt the unconditional love of God in a completely fresh and exiting new way. I wondered is this how people are embraced when they cross over into Heaven?  It was as if the world stopped in that moment and all that mattered was my arrival! Meanwhile, I couldn’t believe I almost drove on by and missed out on this incredible blessing. Once they finally released me, I took a deep breath and managed to offer them a ride. They said they were originally waiting for the bus, but accepted my offer. Even though it was a while ago, I still often find myself reflecting back on that moment. God’s love was ever so present right there at that busy little intersection.

During the ride to their house, they jokingly reminded me of some of the comments I’ve made in the past (even some from 5th grade). I envisioned myself…little “Nikki” with her horrible attitude. My heart ached at the thought of ever hurting them and that beautiful, gentle soul of theirs. I honestly didn’t even remember any of it. Nevertheless, their comments about how I use to treat them really opened my eyes, especially the more and more I thought about it in these past months. As imperfect humans, sometimes it’s easier for us to remember the positive impact we’ve made on others than it is to remember the negative ones.  And sometimes, we just tend to write people off as “haters” and totally skip over the grey area.

When I first became a Christian, I made it a point to apologize to everyone I could think of for times I fell short. Unfortunately, I’m not even aware of every single time or person, but I did my best. As for the rest, I can only pray God brings opportunity just like He did in the particular situation mentioned above. If you are someone I have hurt through my words, actions or even both, I truly am sorry.

I want you to know that I recognize my own imperfection.

I want you to know that I cringe in regret when I even think about some of the things I have said and done in my past. I’m not just referring to my life before I accepted Christ either, but even after Him. I strive to be better than the person I was yesterday, but I don’t always get it right.

I want you to know God is always working on my heart.

I want you to know that if you don’t like me, I’m open to the fact that hey, maybe your reasoning is valid.

There have been plenty of times in my life when I expected apologies, but struggled to forgive and there have been plenty of times when I demanded grace but wouldn’t offer it (this is especially true for the beginning of my marriage).

The only thing I stand by are the times in which I was being obedient to God. There are times He asks me to speak up and stand by His word and/or His people and so I do. There are times when my anger is righteous anger. Maybe I haven’t always spoken in love the best I could, but my heart behind things is for Him and I regret nothing I do for Him. I don’t want any of my brothers and sisters in Christ to be turned away by Jesus as they say “Lord, Lord but didn’t we do all these things in Your name?” I never want to be in that position either.  My heart is for us all to intimately know and fully live, for Him.

If you are not in fact someone that I have ever made a negative impact on, I pray you can still take something away from this. In fact, I just want to wrap this up by praying for all of you. Please stand in agreement with me.

Father, thank You for who You are, all that You’ve done in my life and in the lives of those reading this. Lord, I pray that if there’s anyone else out there I have wronged, you reveal it and show me how to make it right – even if it was back in the 90’s. I pray the same for every set of eyes reading this post right now. Search their hearts too and reveal anything to them that they might have forgotten or are missing. I also pray for anyone out there who knows they have wronged others and are struggling with forgiving themselves. Remove the guilt and burden and teach them how to stand tall and confident in You with a brand new, fresh start. Wrap them in Your loving arms and show them they are completely forgiven and unconditionally loved by You.
In Jesus name, Amen.

Well, my sweet friends (and possibly foes), I pray you were blessed and encouraged.

May you settle into 2018 with more joy, strength, courage and wisdom than you ever expected!

Until next time…

The bible is rich in powerful wisdom, beautiful analogies and inspiring stories that help us to better understand God’s character and successfully grow in the midst of life’s ups and downs. There are so many more scriptures that tie into what I shared today, but I will leave you with this one for now.
For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. – Matthew 7:2
I encourage you to mediate on it throughout your week. Study the context. In addition, pray for God to show you exactly how you can apply it to your life now. Nothing is too small for Him to use; you just never know what He’s up to! And as always, I am on this journey with you so let’s do this!
2018-01-04T13:12:31+00:00 11 Comments


  1. Lisa January 3, 2018 at 7:24 pm - Reply

    Love your honesty and the truth of this post. We are all just sinners and sometimes we fall short. But God can help us and change us if we let Him. Good thoughts!

    • Natasha Grantz January 3, 2018 at 9:25 pm - Reply

      Thank you! He changes us for sure! <3

  2. Brandi @ Littles and Life January 3, 2018 at 7:50 pm - Reply

    This is absolutely beautiful! I love those times when God speaks so clearly to us. You did a really great job with this post!!

    • Natasha Grantz January 3, 2018 at 9:26 pm - Reply

      Thank you, I really appreciate it! It feels good to write again. I’ve been so busy lately.. It’s very therapeutic! 🙂

  3. Jeanne Bassett January 4, 2018 at 5:02 am - Reply

    I have been fighting the flu for several days now and tried to go to sleep a little while ago. Something got me back on my phone and I have now read two blog posts by two very different women who have a very similar message. Thank you for sharing your words with us. And please think about finishing some of the others you mentioned, as I am sure we would all benefit from them.

    • Natasha Grantz January 4, 2018 at 12:35 pm - Reply

      Jeanne – Thank you so much for your encouragement! That has happened to me several times too. He leads me to the perfect posts at the perfect time. I have a bitter sweet relationship with social media and technology, but in those moments I couldn’t love it more. lol Praying you feel better soon, my friend! There is so much sickness going around lately ugh.

  4. Amanda January 5, 2018 at 2:16 am - Reply

    Love your heart for Jesus! It took me a long time to accept some people just won’t like me, no matter what and that’s ok! Some people are here for the short haul and that’s Ok too! Love you!

    • Natasha Grantz January 5, 2018 at 4:57 am - Reply

      Thank you and yes, it’s challenging! As the old saying goes “Some people come into your life for a reason, a season or forever.” God uses everything and everyone to bring us into deeper intimacy with Him, when/IF we allow Him to.

      Lately, I’ve been so grateful that He gave me an outlet in writing. It feels so good to release my feelings/struggles and be able to help others at the same time. He is goooooooood!

      Love you! 🙂

  5. danielle January 6, 2018 at 8:42 pm - Reply

    Thank goodness this wasn’t one of those posts lol! I cringe sometimes when I’m reading posts about imperfections but I love you…sometimes that seems so cliche as you said. There are times when I have been unloving and unforgiving and it’s taken God to give me a moment where reflection of His love and grace is the catalyst to do what I need to do. I’m grateful for those moments and posts like these that show is how we feel as humans is real but what God can do to make us more like Jesus is supernatural. It’s a reminder of why we need Him even more.

  6. Rebecca January 7, 2018 at 8:26 am - Reply

    Natasha Grantz, I So enjoyed this , great post and really made me think , thank you for sharing it…..Its really hard sometimes ..I surely can forgive but Im struggling with letting certain people go in my life or let them remain continuing the same cycle of bad treatment from them ..I feel as if I dont allow it and refuse to accept it any longer then everyone thinks Im being unforgiving and does Jesus think this too ? How much is too much before you decide you dont want to accept hurtful treatment ? How long does the lord want us to take abusive treatment and be hurt by someone ? Are we unforgiving if we dont reconcile and stay friends with those who constantly hurt us ? I truly feel I can forgive and love and want the best for someone but that doesnt mean I have to allow them to remain in my life to constantly hurt me ..I dont feel its healthy ..does the Lord expect me to allow those people to remain in my life in order for me to be able to say I truly forgive them ?
    Any thoughts from you Sisters is appreciated …

    • Natasha Grantz January 7, 2018 at 3:32 pm - Reply

      I think almost all of us have been in positions like that. It’s important to guard our hearts, but it’s also important to keep them open for growth (to a certain extent) and without necessarily having to keep them in your life. For example, I know a woman who feels the same way you do but her “enemy” was acting out of obedience. I actually see this often which is why I included that part in the post for myself and for others. Unless it’s like something completely ungodly.. but you have discernment and can see whether someone’s intentions are pure or not etc. Its important to also consider whether or not the person is spiritually healthy. If they aren’t then that’s a no brainer lol, but even then, there’s things that can be learned. God can use anything and anyone to bring us into deeper intimacy with Him.

      And sometimes, we allow our human emotions to cloud the Truth and we become unwilling to see the bigger picture. I would suggest taking what you can from the experiences. Also, humbly pray for God to show you anything you may be missing and then dust your feet off. If He brings reconciliation one day, so be it. If he doesn’t, then trust it’s for a reason.

      Not saying it means you’re at fault – in whatever the situation is. Just that there are always lessons to be learned and that most times, there’s more than meets the eye. But when you can’t do anymore, pray for them and release it. Trust God <3

      I hope this helps

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